Let's go ahead and take that little further step back. Now think about children. They often experience pain, right? The young are perhaps the more they fall down and if they're climbing on something and they slide off, those are skills they haven't quite managed yet, and if you look at pain as information, then how much sense does it make to avoid paint to avoid information? It doesn't make as much sense. We need that information that's part of our process and I know it's saying need, but like we need nutrition, we need sleep. We need certain things to accomplish our goals.

Our ability to enjoy life and there's a lot wrapped around the world. But there is that motivation behind it that is kind of healthy, a need that moves forward rather than that dependency, that addictive type of need. That's kind of a side for you. Pain gives information. If a child is climbing onto the chair, has recently moved in with me, and so he's just over a year and he's learned to climb into the chair and sit at the table badly. But in that climbing on to the chair, he has fallen. Down a couple times or slipped and caught him caught on with his hand to keep him tumbling all the way. When those things have happened, he has cried sometimes because of the physical pain if he's bumped himself or that emotion, fear, like what happened?

We allow that pain of, whether emotional or physical, to stop us; we are no longer learning then our growth stops, and then we begin to feel stuck and unmotivated and helpless and hopeless, right?

Pain is an excellent part of life; we don't have to seek it out. It's part of the learning and growing process. Will we take that pain and use it for its purpose? We go through that pain and learn. We're doing that saying over and over again, and our subcontracting, if it's got a little bit of a reason for something, then it'll seek that reward again in the same way. We might say, why do I seem to like pain? I don't go to Dean to mean perhaps I'm not seeking it out, but maybe subconsciously we're seeking it out. Because we have gotten released in the past and we're talking about young children again. They're constantly falling or bumping into things or causing them away and looking at the different ways parents might respond.

Every child gets things a little different and you can totally respond in a different way, but depending on what's going on and what they're feeling, They can make any of these connections. My parents checked in with me and experienced this fear, emotional fear. But it's significant because my parents or someone around me comes in and helps me to feel that significance.

There's the interpretation that we have given it earlier and like our response to our own pain as children see that and our response to our children's pain can create programs where our brain thinks that this is how I meet a chemical need cause each of those psychological need is to create a film that then gives our brain that neurochemical reward for that leads us to that pain except that information. And we process through that pain and allow it to teach us and release it so much faster than if we avoid it or if we run the page from the pain. It sends us a message louder and louder.

Understand the process or that language of pain. Again, that's a move. That's emotional pain. If you don't want to experience this emotion, you are trying to find something else to distract yourself from pain like playing video games and reading books.

Looking at that pain, it’s the part of where we begin to cover up or hide our authenticity ourselves. Understanding and not any conscious choice, but because of our lack of knowledge and our lack of understanding how the brain works.

Model is like self-discipline that helps us recognize pain, identify those things, and step by step to remember our authentic self knows what our brain is telling us. We want to avoid the pain we feel, but what we're doing is helping them avoid that opportunity for learning and growth.

There's always the extreme if our child has self-harm if it's really going to impact their lives in a way they don't do. We do we are we do we are we do you want to come right but proper, but in a way, we're usually but have this choice have this choice of this goes with that I am going to point this out in places. So should it come to pain, is there a balance that comes with understanding the situation?

Every person, every situation is unique, so it really helps to have the model it has been and this improvement is impacting, and in the people that I know who use and probably enable us to connect with ourselves and not feel pain.

Messages heard that pain. We don't work anymore because our brain doesn't hold on to it, so we have cyclical, emotional, and physical pain. There is that message we haven't received yet in a way that will allow us to change. So remember that children are great by their very nature, and we have the privilege and responsibility to raise them.